Do we feel anxious when we say NO to someone? Do we keep on thinking about it over and over till we feel guilty about it? Or do we feel so uncomfortable that we do not even say “NO” to anybody anymore?
I am sure that many of us would have had faced certain situations where we would have wanted to say no, maybe to the situation or to some person but because of this nature we were not able to. In many situations we are forced by our conscience to say yes and then would think in our minds that it would have been better if we would have said no. The result that follows is that we are not able to commit to the situation or to the person completely and are not able to fulfill the conviction that should be behind that “YES”.
Consider it like this, how would we feel if someone said yes to us regarding some work or commitment and then is unable to complete it with hundred percent dedication? Bad? Maybe the trust that we have on that person would be shaken to a limit because we would want them to say yes only when they can truly perform that task, right?
So if we do not want to be felt like that then why do not we consider this while saying yes to someone regarding anything that they want from us? And the same goes for situations. If we do not want to be in some situation and we are uncomfortable with the circumstances it would bring for us then why say yes to it? Won’t that be even more uncomfortable to be in a situation that we wanted to avoid but are in one because we were unable to say no to the person or the situation?
Someone I know said this once that,
“It is always better to say one true NO than to say one hundred false YESs.”
So if there is a situation in front of us where we have a choice of being in it then only say yes if we truly want to. We can be completely true to something or someone only when we want to, it all depends on us. This not only helps us be better at whatever say yes for but also makes our yes more worthy and trustworthy.
People would respect us more as they would know that whatever we will say yes for we will complete it with sheer dedication and conviction towards it. And if we find ourselves in some situation which makes us want to say no then say no. Do not even try to be in it because we might do something that we would regret later and regret can never be better than anything.
Circumstances bring out the best and worst in us, so always try to bring out the best, face something if that makes us stronger, say yes to that strength that it will provide us but never force the conscience to do something that it does not want to.