Life is unpredictable, and tough. But, the good news is, there are some timeless universal principles to live by, that make our lives much easier to tackle. And one such principle, or art, let’s say, are the powerful words — YES and NO.
Consent with a Yes
Saying YES to a situation that your heart tells you to do but is way beyond your comfort zone. Saying YES in the absence of guarantees. Saying YES when you aren’t sure whether you are ready internally. Saying YES despite feeling lazy and not wanting to work or go to the gym/workout from home. Saying YES to helping people and going out of your way to do so sometimes, and not giving precedence to anxiety in that situation.
The other side of the coin is just as shiny and important.
Saying NO When You Really Don’t Want to do Something
NO to your own weakness and the voice inside your head that judges you, stops you or wrecks your esteem and confidence. NO to a friend who tempts you with something you are trying to quit. Saying NO to remain true to your diet plan, because you control what goes inside your stomach. NO when someone is taking you for granted and exhausting you. NO when you’ve had enough and there’s no pleasing everybody. NO when the situation goes against your beliefs or principles.
It takes a lot of guts to say NO when you are inclined or feel expected to say YES. Likewise, it takes guts to say YES to something when it scares the daylights out of you. Only people who don’t want to be a victim of their circumstances use these two words powerfully when they need to. Only people who feel they deserve better and respect themselves enough to stay true to who they are can find the power to say these two words.
More importantly, I want to highlight that there are two worlds where you have to use these words. One is the external environment, saying YES and NO to the people around you or the opportunities that knock on your door. The second environment is the internal, saying these words to yourself before you say it out loud to another. Learn to say NO to your weakness, fears and selfishness. Know when to you use both. Be brave enough to face the consequences of your decision and face the unknown head on. That is how we grow, that is how we assert ourselves and that is how we make our mark. History was made by people who persisted and stood their ground, not by people who didn’t hold their convictions high above the fleeting, ever changing situations.